I often try to do things on my own. We all have that nature. As a Christian, we think that once we let God take control, we become immune control. I wish that was the case, but unfortunately, even when I pray that God handles a situation, I still try to control it. When family problems occupy my mind day and night, I’m trying to handle it. I may even ask a friend or two for their input. Once I give this particular problem in detail to God, He has it! I don’t have to keep trying to figure it out. God wants us to trust Him and have faith that He will handle it. Many marriages are drowning these day to the best of couples. I know that instead of seeking God and giving Him the problems, we are too quick to fix it. Our fixes include the silent shoulder, the long days and nights at work, avoiding conversations, and finally separation and/or divorce. If we were to keep asking God for direction, He, in His time, would work it out for us. This is extremely difficult because we all lack patience. Let Psalm 119:34 be our daily prayer to God: “give me understanding, so that I may keep your law and obey it with all my heart”. Most marriage problems deal within our own desires not being met. If you have an issue with your spouse, take a look at yourself and see where you are lacking. Ask God to meet your needs of acceptance, love and respect. Your response to God’s answers may be the saving grace of your marriage. Reach out for HIS hand when you are drowning in self. He will pull you up, dry you off and warm your heart.